Monday, September 6, 2010

Sometimes its just hard being happy for someone else.

Its hard because we’re so competitive. Our need to win all the time makes it so hard to share.

But what are we actually competing for? How does it work? Whoever has the biggest house, sleekest car, twin babies, most money, do they win? What kind of competition is it where the playing field is completely unpredictable. How could a winner be found when everyone competes differently, for different things. Priorities are never the same, goals are never the same. And yet, in that one instance where what you desire is being enjoyed by someone else, you cannot be happy for them?

You can, when you realise something… the world does not revolve around you. This is not your planet it is ours. We share its bounty, we share its beauty. We all take from it what we wish. We are all one, in our thinking, in our hearts, in our minds. We’re collective and independent at the same time.

Envy is a terrible, tragic human failure. It eats away the happiness that is glowing from within. It dims and shadows the blessings and joys you were meant to experience when your wishes are fulfilled. Yes, it’s a hard lesson to learn to banish your envy, but it is such an important one. It is such a vital life enhancing emotional skill that must be mastered.

We try to be winners by beating each other to the punch, but when will we learn that it is that very trait that makes us losers.

I am very happy for you. You have come a long way and you have worked hard, sacrificed and suffered. You have smiled brightly, laughed loudly and triumphed. You live as do I.

I am your witness as we stand side by side being happy for each other.