Friday, March 6, 2015

Soft underbelly of the beast

Thank you to everyone who has taken a moment to read what I have written and also to those who let me know that they enjoyed it. I really appreciate it. 

There's a certain vulnerability when you expose your thoughts and write them down in an open forum for anyone to read, critique, mock, scoff, whatever. And no matter how confident you might think you are, a simple comment is enough to strike you down at the knees.

Everyone has a soft spot, a weak spot somewhere that if touched upon will bring the person to break in sadness or rain upon you in fury. There are two types of people when it comes to vulnerability. You have the raw type who exposes themselves to you immediately and somehow manage to offload their baggage on you without a moments thought. You have just been used as a free therapist, you think you have helped them but instead they have helped themselves to you and your mind. I love those types. You just know that they are fat, stupid, fearful, broke, whatever within minutes of meeting them because they told you. In an instant you connect with them because they decided to show you their underbelly. 

On the other hand you have the ones who lock their weaknesses away. Even from themselves. They build a fortress around it. Protect it. Defend it from perceived exploitation. Perhaps they are embarrassed or ashamed. Perhaps they feel others won't understand unless they are exactly the same kind of person. I have met a few people like that. You never really get to know them. Just the parts they allow you access to. Heaven forbid you try to pry your way into a restricted level. No free therapy. No thank you.

Who knows what results in the creation of either of those types of people. Neither of them is better than the other. Its just how life has played out. Humans are such interesting creatures. Someone once said to me that the creation can never understand the Creator. Imagine for a second how complex we are. Each of us individually has an infinite amount of complications. So when for a moment you can truly connect with someone it is an amazing accomplishment. 

So many people in the world with all their different, weird and interesting characteristics, so when you reach out its like shooting an arrow in the dark and hoping for the best. As long as you don't hit the underbelly, you'll be just fine.

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